The words "I love you" are powerful ones. When you and your partner are pulled
in different directions - jobs, kids, friends, family, meetings -- sometimes a
quick "love ya" is all either of you can manage at the end of the day.
But it's crucial to also show your love, actions reinforce the words, backing up your
feelings and making your relationship stronger. There's evidence behind it --
actions really do speak louder than words. These simple strategies
send your message loud and clear:
1. Respond to a need
The best way of
expressing love is by anticipating a need of your partner's and fulfilling it. This shows that you listen to him and that his well-being and
happiness is important to you. The key is to pay attention. For example, if your
mate is stressed about work, make an effort to take on some of his personal or
household chores for a while. Has he been putting off an errand? Run it for him.
Don't underestimate the power of an occasional thoughtful gesture.
2. Share a laugh
All relationships have
times of conflict and difficulty. Encouraging laughter ensures
there's some positivity to outweigh the negativity. That's what creates a
sustainable love relationship. Send your mate an email when something funny
happens or your kid says something outrageous. Or search YouTube for a
blast-from-the-past commercial or funny video clip to email or post on his
Facebook page.
3. Be full of surprises
An unexpected gift
or gesture says "You're special". It shows that you think of him
and feel connected to him even when you're not together. If you happen to find
something that relates to a topic or activity of interest to your mate, bring it
home. Love letters also make great surprises.
4. Make eye contact
Looking into each
other's eyes signals you are deeply connected. Most busy couples,
however, manage only quick glances. You needn't spend hours or even minutes
gazing at each other. Take advantage of opportunities for eye contact that last
longer than a few seconds. If you have a dinner date, lock eyes during your
conversation. Face each other as you chat in bed before falling asleep. Even
when surrounded by others, seek out your partner's eyes and make a quick
connection.
5. Spend time together
It sounds obvious, but
quality time is better than saying "I love you" a thousand times. Once in a
while, suggest an activity that incorporates one of your partner's interests,
even if it doesn't coincide with your own. The unselfish act shows that you
cherish different sides of him.
6. Hug, hold hands and cuddle
Physically
connecting with someone is the most natural way to express love. But after
several years together, non-sexual touching often falls by the wayside. Revive it whenever you are together: pick up and squeeze his hand, or
place your hand on his back. Sit close. Give him a hug goodbye and hello. And
instead of sitting in separate chairs, cuddle up on the couch together once in a
while.
Women aren't the only ones who want
romance. Both genders want and need it. And by showing your love
with these gestures, chances are your partner will start reciprocating in
kind.
Have you already sayingI LOVE YOUto your partner? Say now...
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